Just Broke Up With A New Love: Is It A Love Affair?

From the image of Taylor kissing, many young people said that the female singer was too blasphemous with her old love.
Friends "estranged" for having a new relationship soon
Yesterday (June 16), the world media announced that cult singer Taylor Swift revealed a romantic kiss with actor Tom Hiddleston on the beach. Fans of the two stars rejoiced, who "grieved" because their idols were "robbed of their freedom".
Singer Taylor has a new love after just 2 weeks of spending time with the old person
A star in love is a very normal thing and few people deny, this is a pair of "talented boys and girls" of Hollywood. The important reason why netizens are so "excited" is that this singer has just announced her breakup with her ex, Calvin Harris for 2 weeks

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So, instead of congratulating the two big stars for finding love, the online community gives sympathy to Calvin, the world's No. 1 DJ. They loved him because they had not lost their love in time and had to pity the old man to follow the new love Some even try to put themselves in Calvin's shoes and think that, in this situation, self-esteem has been hurt badly.




After all, Calvin was the person who sympathized the most
Vietnamese showbiz more than 4 months ago also had a depressing story about the trio of Tien Dat - Hari Won - Tran Thanh. In February 2016, the Korean singer suddenly revealed a photo of hugging and kissing another boy when she had just finished a 9-year relationship for several months. She is like Taylor, having been criticized as a betrayer.
So how long does it take to break up with an old lover? Must "leave love", torment, suffering for 6 months, 1 year or longer to not be called a love affair? Let's try to find answers among young Vietnamese.
Minh Thu (21 years old, a student at a university in Hanoi) said that if you break up for a month or a year, it is still goodbye, everyone has the right to find a new relationship.
“I don't cheat, nor hold hands first, arm behind. So why is there a new lover when I just broke up with my old lover, I am blamed for it? Do I have to be hurt, tired and bored, enduring the suffering alone for many months and years to be considered a deep love for my ex? If that happens, I will think so ”
Many girls are said to be in love because they soon have a new lover (illustrations)
Le Thuy (25 years old, an accountant for a construction company) after breaking up, from getting sympathy from friends was quickly whispered, criticized behind the back just for getting acquainted with new people.




When she was a 2nd year student, Thuy fell in love with a guy from the same school, over 2 years old. At first, the two fell in love deeply, did not hesitate to bring each other back to family and friends. However, when her lover graduated from school, Thuy saw that her relationship began to crack. From the point of concern less, quarreling more, the two admitted, each person's feelings are no longer the same.
The day her lover decided to enter the South, Thuy actively said goodbye. At this point, she was encouraged by both friends from both sides, comforting her that it was the right decision because the two no longer shared the same direction. However, three months after falling in love with the newcomer of a boy from the same hometown, she was estranged from her friends. Thuy even heard whispers, gossiping, criticizing her for "greed for gold and neglect".




“I was quite shocked, sometimes, I don't understand why I forgot so quickly. But actually, everyone has different reasons for breaking up. Before that, I and my ex were too depressed, many times wanted to quit, the breakup sentence was just a definitive procedure. The feelings are over, so I'm not too difficult to welcome new people. After breaking up, you must forget to meet other people. Maybe just keep hugging the pain of love forever ", Thuy shared.
Love just to fill the void or love just because… love
Explaining why having a love early is considered a betrayal, Ms. Nguyen Thi Yen (currently the head of training department of a training and education joint stock company in Hanoi) said:
“Among us everyone understands, emotions are like strings, cut off.



Most of them experience torment, suffering because of their feelings for the old person or the habit of being together. Therefore, when leaving a person who is in love right away, another person is often said to be in love ".
Psychologist Nguyen Thi Yen
However, psychologists have affirmed that love is a matter of two people. Love or no outsider has no right to judge. However, she completely agreed with the point of not falling in love too quickly.
From the perspective of psychology, Ms. Yen analyzed, emotions are formed based on the rules of love, love, need, understanding ..



. The law takes place in a certain period of time. A person who has just broken up needs time to adjust to the feeling of leaving the old in order to develop feelings for the new one in the most natural way.
"Whether loving fast or slow, you must answer a question:" Love just to fill the void or love because you really have feelings? ". Answering this question you will know, your decision to come to a newbie is right or wrong. The important thing in a person's life is to love to find the right half of his life, not to love for relief. And if you have real feelings, do not be afraid of love, fear of public opinion ", psychologists reminded.
According to Thanh.

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